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I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.
The World’s Most Unusual Therapist
by Dr. Joe Vitale
Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients–without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate’s chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person’s illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.
When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane?
It didn’t make any sense. It wasn’t logical, so I dismissed the story.
However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho ‘oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn’t let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more.
I had always understood “total responsibility” to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it’s out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that way. We’re responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does. The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility.
His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous. Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.
Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.
“After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely,” he told me. “Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed.”
I was in awe.
“Not only that,” he went on, “but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed.”
This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: “What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?”
“I was simply healing the part of me that created them,” he said.
I didn’t understand.
Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life – simply because it is in your life–is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.
Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life.
This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy–anything you experience and don’t like–is up for you to heal. They don’t exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn’t with them, it’s with you, and to change them, you have to change you.
I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho ‘oponopono means loving yourself. If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone–even a mentally ill criminal–you do it by healing you.
I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients’ files?
“I just kept saying, ‘I’m sorry’ and ‘I love you’ over and over again,” he explained.
Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, your improve your world. Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message. This time, I decided to try Dr. Len’s method. I kept silently saying, “I’m sorry” and “I love you,” I didn’t say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.
Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn’t take any outward action to get that apology. I didn’t even write him back. Yet, by saying “I love you,” I somehow healed within me what was creating him.
I later attended a ho ‘oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He’s now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive. He praised my book, The Attractor Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book’s vibration will raise, and everyone will feel it when they read it. In short, as I improve, my readers will improve.
“What about the books that are already sold and out there?” I asked.
“They aren’t out there,” he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom. “They are still in you.”
In short, there is no out there.
It would take a whole book to explain this advanced technique with the depth it deserves. Suffice it to say that whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there’s only one place to look: inside you.
“When you look, do it with love.”
This article is from the book Zero Limits by Dr. Joe Vitale and Dr. Len
Stories From The Shtetl 3
June 19th, 2013
Inner Marriage Outer Marriage
The Sri Yantra embodies the Magen David (Star of David).
The Star of David is a symbol of the unification of the Masuline (Cosmos) and the Feminine (Earth). The place of unification is in our body, the inner marriage of the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine.
THE PURPOSE OF the marriage of a woman and a man is union.
The purpose of union is fertilization.
The purpose of fertilization is giving birth.
The purpose of birth is learning.
The purpose of learning is to grasp the divine.
The purpose of apprehending the divine is to maintain the endurance of the one who apprehends with the joy of apprehending.
The Essential Kabbalah, Page 21, Daniel C. Matt
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Yossele The Miser told by Shlomo Carlebach
The Pillar of Defense (Pillar of Cloud original translation from Hebrew) was just finished. My first experience of war so close. A very emotionally charged and stress eight days. Even though, I decided to have my shipment of personal effects, sitting in my overseas shippers warehouse, put on a ship to come to The Holy Land. Not a rational decision at all. After all, I had other people goods in the shipment. Friends that I made in Tzfat asked if they could add things to my shipment, I said yes. The shipment was in LA for almost 2.5 years since I arrived here. I felt a sense of obligation to get my friends goods here even though I wasn’t so sure I wanted my stuff here, since I was having thoughts of leaving the Holy City of Tzfat. I was at my Holy friends Tali & Avraham home for Shabbas the following Friday night. After we finished our meal, Tali read us the story of Yossele The Miser from Shlomo Carlebach’s book. We had tears in our eyes, our hearts were open. Right then I decided to stay here in my home, Tzfat, Israel, The Holy Land. All other possibilities suddenly vaporized, Thank God!
Shabbat is coming in just as I finish writing this post. It’s been rainy, foggy and grey all day and the sun just came out!! Woo Hoo!
Many blessings to you all, Shabbat Shalom!
PS The story is in a 2 part video/audio
~ a story about Real Love vs Fish Love
YOUR RELIGION IS OF NO SIGNIFICANCE TO ME, AS LONG AS WE PRACTICE, LOVE LIGHT, TRUTH, PEACE AND WE DO OUR BEST TO MAKE THIS WORLD A BETTER ONE. I LOVE YOU MY BROTHER. IT IS OF NO SIGNIFICANCE TO ME WHAT THE COLOR OF YOUR SKIN IS, THAT IS ONLY PIGMENTATION. DARKER MAKES IT EASIER IN THE SUN. I LOVE YOU MY BROTHER, EVEN IF YOU WERE RAISED TO HATE ME. EVEN IF YOU NEVER TASTED TRUE LOVE IN YOUR LIFE. I LOVE YOU MY BROTHER. I LOVE YOU MY BROTHER EVEN IF YOU THINK I AM YOUR ENEMY. I NEVER WAS. I LOVE YOU MY BROTHER. WITH YOU I AM WHOLE. WITH YOU I AM ONE. WHEN YOU ARE FIGHTING ME MY BROTHER MY LOVE LACKS ITS FULL POTENTIAL. I LOVE YOU MY BROTHER.
LOVE LIGHT TRUTH COMPASSION EDUCATION FORGIVENESS LIGHT LIBERATION FREEDOM BROTHERHOOD PEACE. WE ARE ALL ONE. IN ORDER TO MAKE THIS WORLD PROSPER WE MUST RAISE OURSELVES AND OUR CHILDREN TO TRUTH, LOVE, LIGHT, PEACE, TO SHARING OF KNOWLEDGE. HATRED IS ONLY THE ABSENCE OF LIGHT. NO NEED TO FIGHT, WE HAVE BEEN FIGHTING FOR ALMOST 6,000 YEARS. WE ARE ALL PRECIOUS BEINGS. IT IS TIME FOR TRUE KNOWLEDGE. FOR LIFE LIGHT TRUTH DIGNITY RESPECT AND PEACE. I LOVE YOU MY BROTHER. EVEN THOUGH WE HAVE LIMITATIONS TO OUR WORLD AND TO OUR GROUNDS. WE HAVE TO LEARN HOW TO WORK WITH THOSE LAWS. NOT AGAINST THEM. I LOVE YOU MY BROTHER. LOVE LIGHT TRUTH PEACE FORGIVENESS GRATITUDE COMPASSION PEACE WISDOM FREEDOM KNOWLEDGE PROSPERITY FOR ALL. IT IS ONE WORLD MY BROTHER. ONE PEACE. ONE HARMONY. ONE LOVE. MANY ROADS. ONE DIVINE INTERVENTION. ONE TRUE FRIENDSHIP. ONE LOYAL COMMITMENT TO ONE ANOTHER. ONE NEW ESTABLISHMENT OF WELFARE AND JUSTICE AND LOVE AND PEACE FOR ALL. I LOVE YOU MY BROTHER. MAY WE ALL REALIZE SOON HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO WORK TOGETHER. DESPITE OUR PAST. DESPITE OUR CONTROVERSIES AND PAINFUL MEMORIES. DESPITE OUR LOSSES. I LOVE YOU MY BROTHER. LETS MAKE THIS WORLD A WONDERFUL ONE FOR EVERYONE. THIS ARE NOT JUST WORDS. THIS IS LIFE ITSELF. I LOVE YOU MY BROTHER.
written by Liat Shoval Pele